Shopping for Schools – Part 2

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Shopping for Schools – Part 2

Have your child make a list of important questions they want answers to and let them do the asking. This gives children experience talking to adults on an equal level about important topics that pertain to them—after all, the kids are the customers!

When an empowered child chooses his school, he becomes responsible for loving to learn by assessing how well the school supports his innate curiosity and natural love of learning. This decision-making teaches children real-world consequences.

When we present children with the option of choosing their school, we ask for a commitment that they will do their best to try to get their needs met at that school.

We agree that when they start closing down in a certain subject, or just don’t want to go to school, they commit to two weeks of trying to get their needs met.

Each day we sit down and discuss the issues that are stopping them from loving to learn, and each day the child tries to change one of those things.

If, at the end of two weeks the school has not responded to the child’s requests for change, we seek a new school.

Expecting children to attend a school that does not address their individual learning needs simply teaches them that their needs are not important and often makes them feel that they have failed, not realizing that it’s the system that has failed.

Later in life, this may translate into your children not standing up for themselves in unhealthy relationships or jobs because they never learned a productive way to ask for their needs to be met.

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Wendy Garrido, founder of, helps new & soon-to-be moms give birth confidently, make parenting more fun, and raise children who believe in themselves and care about others. Wendy chose her own schools from the age of 2.5, when her mom told her that she would know which school was right for her, based on how it made her feel. She lives in Oceanside, CA with her husband, Prem, and daughter, Shanti, born in May 2012.

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