Kids That Succeed Daily
It’s the little steps that count in raising a child.
The time you take to help them work through an issue they are having. It may seem inconsequential at the moment, but these situations, the ones that create negative reactions in your child, are the ones that you want your child to master at a young age.
These are the life skills that your child needs to address to make life easier as they get older. You can’t do it for them. You need to allow them to figure out what they need to address to get a new perception on the situation.
Jimmy didn’t want to go to school. He said he didn’t have any friends. When his dad sat down and told him that it was important that he kept his love of learning alive and it seemed he was shutting down because he didn’t want to go to school because he felt lonely.
“I don’t,” Jimmy replied.
“Well, what can we do about it? We could look at another school. Would you like to do that?”
“No, then I would miss my friend Jack.”
“Oh, so you have friends at the school but not in your class?”
“Yeah, you know that Dad.”
“So, you could go back a grade and be in the same class as Jack. Would you want to do that?”
“What’s the problem with that?” his dad asked him.
“Well, I would get bored I think because I already know all that stuff.”
“Well, the goal is to keep your love of learning alive. You need to figure out which works best for you because only you know the answer to that.”
They continued talking and his dad continued to give him options. Finally Jimmy said, “Okay. I am going to stay in the class I am in. I am going to have to try to talk to other kids more so I don’t feel so alone.”
These little steps are huge for kids. They give a child options, an opportunity to figure out what works for them, and motivation to keep moving forward no matter what the day brings. Once you expose your kids to these kinds of options, they begin to own figuring things out and make it habit to bring issues home to you for support and help. Seldom will they allow you to tell them what to do, which is good. They are learning how to make the best out of every day they have–something many of us are still trying to do!!!